Why Krishna never married Radha?
1An Eternal Love Story (Radha Krishna)
The Radha Krishna love story is eternal and sublime. It is symbolic of the divine union between the Jivatma and Paramatma – the individual self and the universal self. The Bhagavata story of Krishna, the cowherd romancing Radha, the gopi is an incomparably superb mythology and a legend conquering times. Millions of people across generations are mesmerized by the Radha Krishna love story
2 An Eternal Love Story (Radha Krishna)
Listening to their most enchanting love, most readers end up wondering “why didn’t they end up together”? Well, a survey about why Kirshna didn’t marry Radha revealed many different thoughts coming from different minds. Check out this very interesting discussion…
3 Bhakti Yoga
Jay Bagri says: “The idea of Radha Krishna as lovers is popular only after the Bhakti movement during the late medieval age. The poets and romantics have given this spiritual relation a physical form, and distorted the picture for the average viewers. In ancient prayers, “Rukmani, Satyabhama sametha Sri Krishnamasra” is what (is) recited and there is no mention of Radha altogether.”
Bagri outlines the timeline of Krishna: Appearance at midnight of Sravana k8 (July 19/20), year 3228 BC to Devaki; taken by Vasudeva from Mathura to Nanda and Yasoda in Gokula. Till his third year lived in Gokula, moved to Vrindavana.
From age 7-10, Brahma steals and returns cowherd boys; Govardhana puja; plays Rasa-Lila with the gopis; is invited to Mathura for a wrestling match; Krishna kills Chanura and his brother Balarama kills Mustika; then Krishna kills Kamsa and Balarama kills many of his brothers. from age 10-28, lives in Mathura; intiated with Balarama into chanting Gayatri by Gargamuni; instructed with Balarama in the 64 arts by Sandipani Muni; protects Mathura from many demons.
From age 29-125, Krishna establishes kingdom in Dwaraka, marries Rukmini and seven principal queens; marries 16,100 princesses; 161,080 sons are born to Krishna; speaks Bhagavad-Gita at Kuruksetra Battle (~90)(3138 BC); saves King Parikshit in the womb; instructs Uddhava. After 125, disappearance on February 18th, 3102 BC…
Bagri concludes: “So, Krishna knew of the physical Radha only till Krishna was 10. He never returned to Vrindavan after that time. There are no instances to say Radha travelled anytime to Dwaraka. Also, in South India, there is no mention of Radha in the ancient texts. However, there are several versions to it. One version says that they were married during childhood by Lord Brahma himself. Other than this, there are no mentions whatsoever in any texts that Radha Krishna married each other.
A Spiritual Relationship from Krishna
Paul Howard has got to say about the pastimes of Sri Radha Krishna: Material existence is a perverted reflection of spiritual activities. Krishna is the supreme enjoyer; and in material life, everyone wants to be like Krishna in various ways, but the result is abominable.
9 A Spiritual Relationship from Krishna
Krishna’s paramour relationships are the greatest spiritual excellence, but the human imitation of such a relationship is most horrible.” Radha Krishna love can never be approached from the physical parlance. It is indeed supreme and has to be viewed as a form of devotion through which Radha approached Krishna, the universal self.
Howard continues: “We are constitutionally Krishna’s servants, and servants should never imitate the Master. Everything is Krishna’s property and naturally meant for Krishna’s enjoyment, so when we imitate Krishna, it’s a crime against reality. Separation in love makes the love more intense, so Radha’s not being publicly married to Krishna, enhances their love affair. Radha is Krishna’s eternally separated self, and hence their marriage is unnecessary.
Love And Marriage Are Different (Radha Krishna)
Madhu Rao writes: Lord Krishna did not marry Radha to prove that Love and Marriage are two different things…love is a selfless emotion while marriage is an agreement or arrangement… Krishna acknowledged the divine and untainted love of Radha with His divine grace. The Radha Krishna love story is an instance of the zealous pursuit of spirituality apringing forth eternally from the individual self towards the universal self.
Lover As Devotee
Prateek Kumar says: “Radha had realised that Krishna was GOD and she was in love with him as a devotee and lost in bhaktibhav, which people mistook as physical love. (Similar to the case of Meerabai)”. Therefore the question of Krishna marrying Radha never arises. Radha Krishna love is a relationship between the devotees and God.
Krishna And Radha Are Not Separate
Prashant Jaiswal writes: Radha is not a separate individual from Krishna. You need two individuals to marry. Lord Krishna has various types of energies – his external energy is inferior energy and it’s Maya (Ma meaning not, ya meaning which, together meaning “something which is not real).
Krishna And Radha Are Not Separate
His internal potency (antaranga shakti) is Radha. Radha is Krishna’s energy, which pleases him and possesses unparalleled love and devotion (to him). Therefore Radha Krishna are two different manifestatiosn fot he same supreme divine principle. Therefore the question of Radha Krishna marriage is never appropriate since there is no element of two there.
Unconditional Love between Radha Krishna
Vaishnav Charan Das answers why Krishna did not marry Radha: “To teach us mortals what is unconditional and eternal love…” Radha Krishna relationship is never physical, but only spiritual meaning the highest form of devotional expression by a human towards God.
The Highest Form of Love
Lia Dee shares: Krishna did not marry Radha “because it is the highest form of love, according to Vedic scriptures…” Here we can never equate Radha Krishna love with those that are found elsewhere in the other mythological stories, literature and history. It is sublime and without a parallel. Radha Krishna is an instance of supreme emanation of divine vibrations.
Radha Refused Marriage?
Sanchary Ghosh writes: “According to one version, Radha refused to marry Krishna because she felt that she would not fit in a palace. She thought no one would respect a cowgirl. People would expect Krishna to marry a princess. Though he tried to reassure her (otherwise), she was firm in her decision…” This is one of the interpretations given to explain why Radha Krishna never married.
Prajakta Bhide shares: “I had read somewhere that Radha asked Krishna why he wouldn’t marry her. And he simply said: “How can one marry his or her own soul?” Though Radha is very well aware of this fact, their conversation explains the whole of humanity that Radha Krishna are one and not different from each other in spirit and existence.
Society Comes in The Way
Someone was of the opinion that it was social norms which played the villain. “Social conditions of Krishna and Radha were not good in a way that they could marry…”
Spiritual Love Is Ecstatic
Elsewhere, Vraja Kishor writes: “To understand Radha correctly, you need to somewhat understand the mysteries of “rasa” and “prema” – the ecstatic experience of spiritual love. Krishna and Radharani playfully married once, as children sometimes do. They did not really marry, however, because their love is more primal, profound, and unbounded than what wedded love facilitates.
Spiritual Love Is Ecstatic
Wedded love is a very elevated type of divine union, yet in marriage, the intimacy and spontaneity is not limitless.” Radha Krishna love is the perfect example for the zealous and burning aspiration that brings together the devotee and God on common grounds.
Profound Love of Radha Krishna
Kishor continues: “Some limitation is imposed by the sense of ‘duty’ that husband and wife naturally acquire towards one another. This sense of duty is beautiful, but the highest type of love is even more beautiful. It is so profound that it requires no sense of duty – and flows absolutely spontaneously – breaking all things that stand in its path.
Profound Love of Radha Krishna
Thus, the pure transcendental love that Radha Krishna enjoy on the highest level of bliss (paramānanda), expresses itself in the form of being paramours, not husband and wife.” Hence when the relationship between a man and woman is limited to marriage, Radha Krishna relationship transcends all definitions that are earthly, physical and material.
Vraja Kishore continues: “Radharani is the daughter of Vṛṣabhānu and Kīrtidā. Krishna is the son of Yaśodā and Nandā. Vāsudeva Krishna, a little different, is the son of Devakī and Vasudeva. There may be some distant relationship which would make Rādhā and Krishna cousins. But Krishna’s mother Yaśodā has so much motherly affection for Sri Rādhā that she treats her exactly like her own daughter, or you can say, exactly like her own “daughter-in-law.”
In another discussion, Awal Garg writes: Krishna and Radha were attached to each other mentally. That’s why we say Radhe-Krishna and not Rukmini-Krishna. Rukmini had done a lot of work to acquire Krishna. She had gone against her brother Rukmi because Rukmani, like Radha, was in love with Krishna. Rukmini sent a letter to Krishna that he should come and take her away.
The letter was composed of 7 glistening slokas. They touched Krishna’s heart and he had to accept Rukmini’s plea and make her his first wife. The marriage of Radha and Krishna, on the other hand, doesn’t really matter because they were bound by eternal love. Krishna and Radha moved with each other when Krishna was a boy of less than eight.
After that Radha Krishna never met again in their life time. Even as a child Radha was very well aware of Krishna’s divinity and hence she carried Krishna’s memories in her heart till the end. This is the beauty of their relationship.
28 A Curse Kept The Lovers Apart (Radha krishna)
Jabahar says: “Lord Krishna and Radha are eternal lovers who dwell in Goloka. As per BrahmaVaivarta Purana, before the manifestation of their time on earth, Radharani had a heated argument with Shridama, the personal attendant of Krishna. Radharani got angry and cursed Shridama to take birth as a demon.
29 A Curse Kept The Lovers Apart
Shridama, in turn, cursed Radharani to be born as a human who, after her pastimes with Krishna in Gokula, would get separated for 100 years from her beloved lover. The curse was responsible for Radha to feel the pangs of separation from Krishna which tormented her throughout her lifetime after separating from Krishna when Krishna was just eight years old.
30 Happily Ever After
Jabahar quotes: “Manuṣyā iva kopaste tasmātvaṃ mānuṣī bhubi bhaviṣyāsi na saṃdeho mayā śaptā tvamambike [BVP – 4.3.103], meaning: “You are getting angry like a human, hence you’ll become a human.
31 Happily Ever After
You’ll become a human without any doubt due to my curse” and “Gokule prapya taṃ kruṣṇaṃ vihariṣyasi kānane bhavitā te varṣaśataṃ vicchedo hariṇā saha punaḥ prapya tamīśaṃ ca golokamājamiṣyasi [BVP – 4.3.105,106], meaning, “In Gokula, getting the company of Krishna, you will enjoy pastimes in the forest. Then, you’ll experience a separation of 100 years from Hari. After that, you’ll again get His company and return to Go-loka.”
32 Final words on Radha Krishna
Radha Krishna love can never be approached from any earthly definitions and explanations. It is unparalleled and a startling example for the human race to proclaim the supreme union between the human and divine. Radha Krishna divine love stands in our memories forever guiding and inspiring the journeys of humans towards realizing their inner divinity. In this regard, we have a matchless and mesmerizing story that stands out conquering times. It is a beacon light to our spiritual life.