Body Mind Disconnection
Our body and mind are one unit. They are literally married to each other…and need each other like a husband and wife need each other. But the mind is an unstable fellow and a wanderer. It is constantly neglecting the body and is on its own trip. It pays very little love or attention to body, ( except when there is pain, hunger or discomfort) and is constantly engrossed with thoughts that are either belonging to the past or to the future…These thoughts are usually comprised of desire , fantasy, logic, acquiring, accumulating , wants, worry, anxiety, stress, greed etc. They are usually about past regret or shame or guilt or anger, or about future worry, fear, and many “what if” situations.
The mind is constantly thinking—this is good that is bad., this is right, that is wrong, what is moral, what is immoral, who hurt us, who ignored us, what we lack, what we want etc..basically it’s living in its own cocoon, often in it own world of fantasy. It rarely connects to the body and that too only when required, or when the body gives it an unpleasant signal, in the form of pain, hunger, sleep, sexual urge or discomfort. The mind is concerned with its thoughts and often does not understand the body’s needs. It does what it thinks is good for the body, not what is actually good. For example, early in the morning, the tired body is actually wanting to sleep, but the conditioned mind wakes it up forcibly and gives it caffeine and exercise or work, because the mind thinks that is correct. It often overrides the true needs of the body, for what it thinks is right. The body is always missing it’s partner, the mind, and to bring the mind ‘s love and attention back to itself, like a kid seeking attention, it produces symptoms. If a child is not getting his mother’s attention what does she do? She clings, cries, shouts, throws a tantrum, and if all that fail, she usually falls sick, in reality, or feigns a symptom. The body often behaves in a similar fashion.
Our body, by sheer experience, realises that only when something is wrong with it does the mind attend to the body. When the body has an issue, the mind attends to it, by feeding it or taking it to doctor or taking medicines. Having understood this, the body often resorts to attention seeking measures, which may range from simple skin or hair issues to muscle pains or cramps, to tiredness or miagrane, to obesity to hypertension, cancer and stroke, all depending on how much the mind has drifted and how serious a disease is needed to get the minds attention and to get the mind in tune with the body. The whole idea being to bring the mind back to the body and to the present moment, rather than let it constantly drift to past or future, which is where the mind usually is. Since our body cannot leave the present moment, it tries to pull back it’s partner, the mind to the present, with the only tools that seem to bring the mind back, namely pain, disease discomfort..
Once we realise this, and understand this, we can start voluntarily paying more attention to the body and its needs. The body needs love, care and attention. Its basic needs of wholesome food, water, sleep and sex need to be attended to. The body does not care if you are working to earn money, or covering it with expensive clothes or perfumes. Those are the needs of the mind, not of the body. The body needs rest, relaxation and attention, and in todays highly competitive and fast world, we are not able to give it this, and we take the body for granted, and assume it will silently cooperate with us, always. The body tries it best to cooperate, but when it finds the mind ignroing it, it is forced to send it strong signals, in the form or pain or disease, to get its attention.
Take care of your true body needs, not what your mind thinks the body needs. Cherish it, love it, pamper it, rest it, relax it. and never take it for granted, and it will serve you well. Or else it will be forced to resort to painful attention seeking measures, to gain your mind’s attention.